That's Kunjie, Me, The bride, Shawnna and Andy....Johnny din go...think it was a last minute backout and Shawnna isnt too pleased....
Kunjie and Andy is my JC classmate at CJ and we had lots of fun together in class singing.....
Wednesday, November 29, 2006
3 Hours Talk on the phone
Had a long tok with bc tonight.....it started with the normal complaints about work and boy, he has changed slightly...to complain!!! haha....he used to have the concept that no matter what happens at work, all should end once its end of work day....hence, sometimes its quite hard to know much about what happens at his work day. Unless with endless drilling and all....
Anyway, i've enjoyed the tok tonight though my eyes were filled with tears...tears of joy and sadness. Joy that i've shared my thoughts with him; sadness of how shallow our relationship is after 5 years together.
Few conclusions i've come about when toking to him
1. Relationship is not based on time together, quality counts
Though we have been together for 5 years, he doesnt understand me well enough. It could be due to the fact that he is not involved in most of the things i do. Be it Lindy, Singing or Guitar. He will accompany me when he can but definitely have missed out the different sides of me. Pity.....No matter how long a relationship is, what you do together, what you share with each other, how much you understand about each other really counts..
2. To plan for the future does not means to have a joint account, joint whatever
There are people who believe in having a joint account together to save for the future. I never believe in it. Why? It might be due to the fact with regards to my relationship at home and the many things i've seen money can do....Money becomes a sensitive thingy in my life. That i believe that a couple should never have joint accounts or joint effort to buy a car or whatever joints until they are legally married. This belief might be old but in this modern days when nothing can be certain even when you ROM, why do couples need to have a joint account? If they are serious and ready for each other sharing a same future, they can save on their own and combine forces when they are getting married. This will save all the unnecessary or unforeseen situations when a relationship is ended prematurely i.e prior marriage. Having a stable and strong relationship should be the solid basis for marriage.
3. Values that we see from shows will reflect on us
I was giving him some examples about how tv dramas have hidden messages that will make people realise about some values in life that we should take note of. You know of instances where after watching a scene and you go, "Aiyo, how can he tok like that to his parents", such scenarios. There are a lot of moments in the show where we will 'comment' and without realising that the same is happening to us. That is where we will always need to reflect on ourselves, a times after watching a show that brings up certain values. Those are important lessons taught to us.
4. Rejected man tired, busy woman will be tired too
He was commenting on one will feel a little tired after three consecutive failed attempts of dating me out and yah tired. Isnt it good that he wait readily for me when im not that busy? Me, a busy woman who get involved in thousand and one things in her life will ask the waiting man and jio him out so that at least they have time spend together.
My frens will go, "you soo busy, you jio him when you free lah.." or "isnt it good that one is busy and one is not so and then the busy one can jio the waiting one out? It complements, doesnt it?" In actual fact it does. But has anyone thought that the waiting one, who has been leading a simple life, a very nice one and stable one, can maintain his momentum...keep his life simple and hope for her to call and wait for her call and yet the busy one, has to amidst her busy life, make effort to call and date the other out? Isn't it effort too? It's a tough balance but i guess, being a busy one, and a girl, she hopes to be dated out too, by the other. And she hopes to be a small woman too....
Overall, i can't really remember all the conclusions that we've spoken just now to put it here but i'm really glad to have that conversation. To have a chance to pour out your woes and thoughts is always a good effort. Beats keeping all hidden inside, or not Spelt out.
Last of all, i just wana say, i finally told him about my blog and i hope he will understand me better. Happy reading.....
Anyway, i've enjoyed the tok tonight though my eyes were filled with tears...tears of joy and sadness. Joy that i've shared my thoughts with him; sadness of how shallow our relationship is after 5 years together.
Few conclusions i've come about when toking to him
1. Relationship is not based on time together, quality counts
Though we have been together for 5 years, he doesnt understand me well enough. It could be due to the fact that he is not involved in most of the things i do. Be it Lindy, Singing or Guitar. He will accompany me when he can but definitely have missed out the different sides of me. Pity.....No matter how long a relationship is, what you do together, what you share with each other, how much you understand about each other really counts..
2. To plan for the future does not means to have a joint account, joint whatever
There are people who believe in having a joint account together to save for the future. I never believe in it. Why? It might be due to the fact with regards to my relationship at home and the many things i've seen money can do....Money becomes a sensitive thingy in my life. That i believe that a couple should never have joint accounts or joint effort to buy a car or whatever joints until they are legally married. This belief might be old but in this modern days when nothing can be certain even when you ROM, why do couples need to have a joint account? If they are serious and ready for each other sharing a same future, they can save on their own and combine forces when they are getting married. This will save all the unnecessary or unforeseen situations when a relationship is ended prematurely i.e prior marriage. Having a stable and strong relationship should be the solid basis for marriage.
3. Values that we see from shows will reflect on us
I was giving him some examples about how tv dramas have hidden messages that will make people realise about some values in life that we should take note of. You know of instances where after watching a scene and you go, "Aiyo, how can he tok like that to his parents", such scenarios. There are a lot of moments in the show where we will 'comment' and without realising that the same is happening to us. That is where we will always need to reflect on ourselves, a times after watching a show that brings up certain values. Those are important lessons taught to us.
4. Rejected man tired, busy woman will be tired too
He was commenting on one will feel a little tired after three consecutive failed attempts of dating me out and yah tired. Isnt it good that he wait readily for me when im not that busy? Me, a busy woman who get involved in thousand and one things in her life will ask the waiting man and jio him out so that at least they have time spend together.
My frens will go, "you soo busy, you jio him when you free lah.." or "isnt it good that one is busy and one is not so and then the busy one can jio the waiting one out? It complements, doesnt it?" In actual fact it does. But has anyone thought that the waiting one, who has been leading a simple life, a very nice one and stable one, can maintain his momentum...keep his life simple and hope for her to call and wait for her call and yet the busy one, has to amidst her busy life, make effort to call and date the other out? Isn't it effort too? It's a tough balance but i guess, being a busy one, and a girl, she hopes to be dated out too, by the other. And she hopes to be a small woman too....
Overall, i can't really remember all the conclusions that we've spoken just now to put it here but i'm really glad to have that conversation. To have a chance to pour out your woes and thoughts is always a good effort. Beats keeping all hidden inside, or not Spelt out.
Last of all, i just wana say, i finally told him about my blog and i hope he will understand me better. Happy reading.....
Monday, November 20, 2006
Good news!! Try and Try
Jing has gotten herself a new contract.....a contract that allows her to go to Taiwan for an attempt at the chinese pop scene there.....i m soo happy when i heard that....
Its really great to see and hear my classmate perform and get herself gigs and of cos, a contract.....
there are a lot of ppl out there who hopes to achieve their dream.....ppl who strive to have a glimpse of their dream....but how many ppl are really able to smell success? a small percentage....sad to say...
However, i feel that it's impt to at least make an attempt to set a goal, work towards it, feel the process.....The procedure might be filled with obstacles, but its definitely a process that allows the person to grow, to grow into someone more matured, and in some cases, more realistic....
But i guess, regardless of the result, we shld always be glad that we've tried. It's important to try at new things. Things that you might be afraid to attempt, things that might bring u out of your comfort zone....cos we'll never do what we can do until we try....
For her, she has tried tremendously.....been thru 'hell' and 'torture', been thru ups and downs...she has grown into someone more matured....and someone who glows much more from within.....
I really am waiting for that day, the day where i see her on stage, the day when i see her new album....
Ganbatte!!!
Its really great to see and hear my classmate perform and get herself gigs and of cos, a contract.....
there are a lot of ppl out there who hopes to achieve their dream.....ppl who strive to have a glimpse of their dream....but how many ppl are really able to smell success? a small percentage....sad to say...
However, i feel that it's impt to at least make an attempt to set a goal, work towards it, feel the process.....The procedure might be filled with obstacles, but its definitely a process that allows the person to grow, to grow into someone more matured, and in some cases, more realistic....
But i guess, regardless of the result, we shld always be glad that we've tried. It's important to try at new things. Things that you might be afraid to attempt, things that might bring u out of your comfort zone....cos we'll never do what we can do until we try....
For her, she has tried tremendously.....been thru 'hell' and 'torture', been thru ups and downs...she has grown into someone more matured....and someone who glows much more from within.....
I really am waiting for that day, the day where i see her on stage, the day when i see her new album....
Ganbatte!!!
My New Dress...for Gunawan's wedding
Hmm....i find it soo nice that i must share it here....hehe .....
Im gonna wear this for Gunawan's wedding....
Well, i like weddings....it gives me the feeling of love and i always feel touched by the atmosphere at the wedding dinner.....and of course, its an occasion where gals get to wear nice nice and dress up......not forgetting that its an occasion where you can meet old friends that you might not have a chance to meet....
This is the second wedding of our lot to get married...and a very unique one i would say...cos Gun...is going to pick Lucy up from the hotel....but sad to say, a s it's a weekday, we are not able to join in the fun in the morning....BUT, we have not forgotten about giving 'evil' ideas...hehe....
I'm attending another wedding tomorrow and its Shawnna's. My JC classmate....cant wait to see the rest of the classmates and know how they are..
well, that's all for now...hehe
Wednesday, November 01, 2006
Life...
Life is NEVER a bed of roses....If life is that easy, one might be lazy and taken things for granted....
Huixian was smsing me that day that she is sian with all the 'sian' things that has happened to her these days.....Till she is sort of lost and not sure of what she wants...
However, i believe that all of us, knows what we want, what we like and what we hope to achieve. Upon focusing on our wants, we will meet a lot of obstacles and test along the way that will prolong the direct path to our aim. This in turn will cause us to rething and relook at our wants..."have i been unrealistic? maybe its just a dream. I've past the age" and all these little self demoralising words. Then, we start to change our aim to something deem more realistic....in the end, with all the changes, we start to get lost...
So are we really lost?
I remembered Ernest love music...he has always wanted to start a band. But due to the work nature and all the shit at his previous company, there are a lot of things he is not able to do. Finally when he managed to leave his then job, he started to expose himself to more music, learn theory music and how music is form and lots of others including start to scout for his band members, one fine day, he formed his band called BlackForest, played at numerous events, received good feedback and he is happy.
I once told him about my dream. That i hope to be able to sing for others, need not be a singer, it can be a ming ge can ting singer and i'll be happy....he say, then start to expose yourself....
There are a lot of opportunities out there and its really up to us to plan our move. We might not be able to quit the current job and start a new one. WE might not have the time to learn extra stuff. WE may not this and that....
The fact is, procrastination is not gonna take us anywhere. we have to start exposing ourselves or move little steps towards our aim in order to start the ball rolling. If we never start to move, it will always remain as a hope...
So if you have a hope, make it happen.....no matter how long it takes...
Huixian was smsing me that day that she is sian with all the 'sian' things that has happened to her these days.....Till she is sort of lost and not sure of what she wants...
However, i believe that all of us, knows what we want, what we like and what we hope to achieve. Upon focusing on our wants, we will meet a lot of obstacles and test along the way that will prolong the direct path to our aim. This in turn will cause us to rething and relook at our wants..."have i been unrealistic? maybe its just a dream. I've past the age" and all these little self demoralising words. Then, we start to change our aim to something deem more realistic....in the end, with all the changes, we start to get lost...
So are we really lost?
I remembered Ernest love music...he has always wanted to start a band. But due to the work nature and all the shit at his previous company, there are a lot of things he is not able to do. Finally when he managed to leave his then job, he started to expose himself to more music, learn theory music and how music is form and lots of others including start to scout for his band members, one fine day, he formed his band called BlackForest, played at numerous events, received good feedback and he is happy.
I once told him about my dream. That i hope to be able to sing for others, need not be a singer, it can be a ming ge can ting singer and i'll be happy....he say, then start to expose yourself....
There are a lot of opportunities out there and its really up to us to plan our move. We might not be able to quit the current job and start a new one. WE might not have the time to learn extra stuff. WE may not this and that....
The fact is, procrastination is not gonna take us anywhere. we have to start exposing ourselves or move little steps towards our aim in order to start the ball rolling. If we never start to move, it will always remain as a hope...
So if you have a hope, make it happen.....no matter how long it takes...
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)