巨蟹座的情人发飙时该怎么摆平？

最好不要在巨蟹座的情人面前，做每次都犯同一样错误的事，让他老为同样事生气，表面不坑声并不代表事情过去，当他有一天受够了伤害，决定不要你时，那种坚定的意念足够让你大吃一惊！一但说出分手时，那是真正的再见吾爱，请问你有这样的准备吗？试着以柔情化解他的怒气，记住沈思者的怒气表面看不出，全都装在肚子里。



我觉得以上所写的，真的好象我。而且我特别喜欢这一句"试着以柔情化解他的怒气"。BINGO!!!

its the b....word again

I'm still revolving around the tots that the person b's email brought to me.

The past 2 days, i have spoken to fern and wz about b's email. we talk a lot. I cried, knowingly to one, might be ignorant to the other. I guess, i suddenly felt i lost confidence.

I've always make it a point to go for lindy even though i finish work at 9+. My colleagues call me crazy. I told them that although im tired, going lindy makes me happy. I've been spending 10bucks every nite i've gone down just on cab alone and be there with the gang for slightly more than an hour. And imagine for that 1+ hour, from fling, till we walk to the bus stop, till we walk to supper, till we decided to go home, I've gotten myself in a little unhappiness. What i've thought could destress myself, have causes negative energy around my frens and now in turn, have caused me to be a little stressed. Im not too sure of but i can say and what not.

I've heard a lot, thought about it, and decided that i should give myself a pat on the shoulder and gave some time to myself. Before i think about what i want to do in future, when im still not clear about how i should handle my job, i just want support from my close ones and not anything that is stressful to me and do things that makes me happy. Having say much, most importantly, i want to take a break from Lindy.

Maybe, from the late hours, i've always been tired when im there in lindy and i tend to complain a lot. I don't know. But one thing i'm sure of, since i can't change my job for the time being or i'm having the fear of saying the wrong thing, i've decided to take a break from it. It's my time to take a break from it.

What b say is not wrong. Wz say that it's being frank on his part. He is telling me what he does not like to hear. Similarly, i din like the way it came across. But i would never tell me friend that. (If i remember clearly) I thought it's rude. But it's ok. We certainly can't stop what others want to say. What's more, there is certain truth in his words. I shouldnt complain too much.

Having made this decision, i believe i should have more time. More time to rest, and to think, and be happier.

Another B...day

Words beginning with the letter "B" means a lot of different things. But on Wednesday 18Apr, it started with Brian, then i thought it will be a Bad day, but eventually, at the end of the day, i felt that it was a better and brighter day.

Brian emailed me and the contents disturbed me

He said

"also i have decided that last thurs was the last time i will tune in to your complaints abt your work and stuff. the next time you begin complaining, i am sorry but i will tune out - its not that i m not concerned abt you or ur life, but i m really not interested in hearing abt such unhappy stuff, and i honestly have no sympathy or empathy or the way u feel, due to certain beliefs i currently hold. no malice here, just letting you know. if u have genuine probs i am of course available to listen. but not to those complaints i hear every other week when we meet at fling or dinner. "

At that point of time, i went point blank and just replied : " k i expected it....zipped..."

After thinking about it the following day, i tear on the way to work. A few minutes of self pity. A few minutes of sadness. Why is he doing this again. A bad start

The previous time, i was snapped at for a remark i made and ignored for a month? We were back on talking terms when he decided to talk to me. And now?

Do frens do such things to you? I wonder......

Something pop into my mind when i was thinking about this fren of mine. He said that me and WZ were not making effort to buy fernie her bday present when we went empty handed to fernie's little celebration. BAck at my head, i was feeling bad but thinking more of "you din especially buy anything for me as well on my bday." I know how our friendship is. Not that close till he will buy an individual gift for me. But i've never said anything cos i know where i stand as his friend. But this sentence definitely din make me feel good cos i din feel he deserved to say that.

As a fren, he never really understand me. Other than him knowing i grumbled a lot, he knows nothing else.

He sort of reprimand me once for always laughing and not making effort to learn a technique he was teaching. He ignored me when i appeared for a training in school.

I certainly do not deserve all this treatment. Not for someone you consider as a fren.

He chose to be my fren when im happy and not complaining. It seems based on his email.

He said he will listen to me if i have a genuine problem. Does this means i never have a genuine problem? WHat exactly is a genuine problem? When i want to die? For goodness sake.

I've decided to give myself a break this week from fling, from him. I'd rather meet my boyfriend and go pat tor. Im definitely much more happy and my presence is more appreciated.

I met MX and HX yesterday and we talk about many things and i din complain as much. I realise that Brian and I had probably no topics to talk about. Im not soo engrossed about Lindy as him, i noe nuts about Yoga and whatever. And hence, topics with him revolved around my work related complaints. On second thoughts, No, i wasnt really talking to him when i complain. I was talking to Fern and he is there.

So what's the problem?

I worried for him when he message he had a tiff with his dad and leave home. I worried for him when he mentioned his knee was painful. I treat him as a fren sincerely.

I guess, it's time to let go of this so call close fren. A fren that decides to share my happiness. A hole made in the fence can never be mended. Thanks for all you have done. Maybe i did hurt you. but.......our friendship will never be the same....not for now

Hope all is well...

My xiaomei is down for almost 2days plus the following week. She's been on MC.

Had to recall BW back to office and rescedule his leave.

One must really learn to take care of their self as we never know when we will be down. Precautions better than cure. Words easier said than done.

Hope she's fine and good health to all the rest.

big head?

a colleague of mine RT has been promoted to Team Manager overnight simply because, the newly employed team manager who is employed to looked after this account, seems not up to par or couldnt perform her duties in a new environment for this newly won business. Hence, they decided to bring her back to the HQ and swopped a team leader over to take over her duties.

For the fact that the client was promised to have a team manager for the account, RT was promoted to be Team Manager.

To me, its ridiculous. For the fact that the Managers did not really think he is good, MP simply promoted him just like that. Lame reason. Simply no respect earned for that.

And now he is having the same designation as KS.

We were given 2 weeks to save this account. Our reputation is at stake and KS, SK were asked by GJ to do something in MP's absence. RT din seem to like the idea of the help KS SK proposed, that is to send me down there to teach the consultants the easier and faster way of doing things so as to cut down their processing time and spend more time managing the reservations. He claims he knows what he is doing. Then why the complains from clients?

Some people just don't know the limits. Big Head.

I must never be like that.

V.O.T.

Adelyn's msg came that night

"lets form a support group call VOT, victims of TB...."

I like that idea!!! And i simply named Ah biao as the chairman. Simply because he's the longest survivor. Kudos to his perserverance (i think i spelled it wrongly) or stupidness?

Anyway, we are all out of it. I'm glad.

Had a gathering with the pioneer batch of the Special course people. One of them mentioned that she will ignore laoshi if she met him on the streets. Imagine the extent of the damage he's brought to us. Certain truths and lies.....

As long as he doesn't approach me, i'll ignore him. But i'll still call him laoshi. Simply because he has taught us before. Nothing else.

To leave or not to leave....

Been asked by close friends of mine if im still looking for a job. Well the answer is, action wise, nothing has been done. Thinking wise, i think i should go and learn and brave through more skies. Still young.

I've been feeling lost in this job, simply due to too many factors that its hard to explain. One can say that it is an excuse for not moving on because im used to the environment. I dunno...

There is too many things in my life that i've left it there in its status quo state and not doing anything. Simply telling myself that i should consider carefully prior to making any decisions for fear of regrets.

Someone told me the other day that marriage requires courage. Courage for the guy to propose, courage from the girls to trust her life on her proposer.

I guess, i lack courage. To a certain degree. In certain aspects of life, i have to courage to try. In others, i lack the confidence.

So, the decision is still, c how lah....sigh