Was planning for a bowling session at Safra Mount Faber after work with some of my colleagues. Had sent them a note on the directions by bus and apparently, they got lost. While they had arrived, i was told that i gave wrong directions. Here's what i've written
"People with no car can take bus 131 from this side of the road. Once it turns right from Henderson Road, can alight."
Million dollar question. Do you
1. Alight after it turns into Henderson Road?
2. Alight after it turns from Henderson Road?
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Apparently, they did option 1.
I came back office and wanted to check on my message to them. I apologised to them last night but i wana make sure i did not gave wrong directions. I will apologise again if its really wrong.
So, after reading the message, i was right. Phew....so i msg both of them. "My note sounds alright leh...."
Here's one of their reply
"do you know when 131 bus turn right to Henderson where we alight is wrong. should be turn right then 2nd turn alight, cross opp walk down"
Can die......This is not the first time i had such problems.
Challenging to msg them......
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Thursday, September 25, 2008
Photos taken - long ago
Found this photo link in one of the emails A sent to me previously....
http://s283.photobucket.com/albums/kk289/adelynchua/rb%20birthday/?albumview=slideshow
http://s283.photobucket.com/albums/kk289/adelynchua/rb%20birthday/?albumview=slideshow
Singapore Flyer
Went to Singapore Flyer with my colleagues on 23Sep. Shucks, roads are closed due to F1 race and it was quite a long walk to the Singapore Flyer. Nevertheless, nice view and fun company too.....poor photos as it was a last minute decision to go Singapore Flyer and i din have my camera with me. So, have to make do with my hp cam....
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| Night at Singapore Flyer (Bad resolution) |
Interesting test - find your tree
Someone sent me an email on the below. Quite accurate for me....What about you?
Find your birthday and then find your tree. This is cool and somewhat
accurate for me.
Jan 01 to Jan 11 - Fir Tree
Jan 12 to Jan 24 - Elm Tree
Jan 25 to Feb 03 - Cypress Tree
Feb 04 to Feb 08 - Poplar Tree
Feb 09 to Feb 18 - Cedar Tree
Feb 19 to Feb 28 - Pine Tree
Mar 01 to Mar 10 - Weeping Willow Tree
Mar 11 to Mar 20 - Lime Tree
Mar 21 (only) - Oak Tree
Mar 22 to Mar 31 -Hazelnut Tree
Apr 01 to Apr 10 - Rowan Tree
Apr 11 to Apr 20 - Maple Tree
Apr 21 to Apr 30 - Walnut Tree
May 01 to May 14 - Poplar Tree
May 15 to May 24 - Chestnut Tree
May 25 to Jun 03 - Ash Tree
Jun 04 to Jun 13 - Hornbeam Tree
Jun 14 to Jun 23 - Fig Tree
Jun 24 (only) - Birch Tree
Jun 25 to Jul 04 - Apple Tree
Jul 05 to Jul 14 - Fir Tree
Jul 15 to Jul 25 - Elm Tree
Jul 26 to Aug 04 - Cypress Tree
Aug 05 to Aug 13 - Poplar Tree
Aug 14 to Aug 23 - Cedar Tree
Aug 24 to Sep 02 - Pine Tree
Sep 03 to Sep 12 - Weeping Willow Tree
Sep 13 to Sep 22 - Lime Tree
Sep 23 (only) - Olive Tree
Sep 24 to Oct 03 - Hazelnut Tree
Oct 04 to Oct 13 - Rowan Tree
Oct 14 to Oct 23 - Maple Tree
Oct 24 to Nov 11 - Walnut Tree
Nov 12 to Nov 21 - Chestnut Tree
Nov 22 to Dec 01 - Ash Tree
Dec 02 to Dec 11 - Hornbeam Tree
Dec 12 to Dec 21 - Fig Tree
Dec 22 (only) - Beech Tree
Dec 23 to Jan 01 - Apple Tree
TREES (in alphabetical order)
Apple Tree (Love)- quiet and shy at times, lots of charm, appeal, and attraction, pleasant
attitude, flirtatious smile, adventurous, sensitive, loyal in love, wants to love and be loved, faithful and tender partner, very generous, many talents, loves children, needs affectionate partner.
Ash Tree (Ambition) -extremely attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism, ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with fate, can be very egotistic, reliable, restless lover, sometimes money rules over the heart, demands attention, needs love and much emotional support.
Beech Tree (Creative) - has good taste, concerned about its looks, materialistic, good organization of life and career, economical, good leader, takes no unnecessary risks, reasonable,splendid lifetime companion, keen on keeping fit (diets, sports, etc.).
Birch Tree (Inspiration) - vivacious, attractive, elegant,friendly, unpretentious, modest, does not like anything in excess, abhors the vulgar, loves life in nature and in calm, not very passionate, full of imagination, little ambition, creates a calm and content atmosphere.
Cedar Tree (Confidence) - of rare strength, knows how to adapt, likes unexpected presents, of good health, not in the least shy, tends to look down on others, self-confident, a great speaker, determined, often impatient, likes to impress others, has many talents, industrious, healthy optimism, waits for the one true love, able to make quick decisions.
Chestnut Tree (Honesty) - of unusual stature, impressive,well-developed sense of justice, fun to be around, a planner, born diplomat, can be irritated easily, sensitive of others feelings, hard worker, sometimes acts superior, feels not understood at times, fiercely family oriented, very loyal in love, physically fit.
Cypress Tree (Faithfulness) - strong, muscular, adaptable, takes what life has to give but doesn't necessarily like it, strives to be content, optimistic, wants to be financially independent, wants love and affection, hates loneliness, passionate lover which cannot be satisfied, faithful,
quick-tempered at times, can be unruly and careless, loves to gain knowledge, needs to be needed.
Elm Tree (Noble-mindedness) - pleasant shape, tasteful clothes, modest demands, tends not to forgive mistakes, cheerful, likes to lead but not to obey, honest and faithful
partner, likes making decisions for others, noble-minded, generous, good sense of humor, practical.
Fig Tree (Sensibility) - very strong minded, a bit self-willed, honest, loyal, independent, hates contradiction or arguments, hard worker when wants to be, loves life and friends, enjoys children and animals, sexually oriented, great sense of humor, has artistic talent
and great intelligence.
Fir tree (Mysterious) - extraordinary taste, handles stress well, loves anything beautiful, stubborn, tends to care for those close to them, hard to trust others, yet a social butterfly, likes idleness and laziness after long demanding hours at work, rather modest,talented, unselfish, many friends, very reliable.
Hazelnut Tree (Extraordinary) - charming, sense of humor, very demanding but can also be very understanding, knows how to make a lasting impression, active fighter for social causes and politics, popular, quite moody, sexually oriented, honest, a perfectionist, has a precise sense of judgment and expects complete fairness.
Hornbeam Tree (Good Taste) - of cool beauty, cares for its looks and condition, good taste, is not egoistic, makes life as comfortable as possible, leads a reasonable and disciplined life,
looks for kindness and acknowledgment in an emotional partner, dreams of unusual lovers, is seldom happy with its feelings, mistrusts most people, is never sure of its decisions, very conscientious.
Lime Tree (Doubt) - intelligent, hard working,accepts what life dishes out, but not before trying to change bad circumstances into good ones, hates fighting and stress, enjoys
getaway vacations, may appear tough, but is actually soft and relenting, always willing to make sacrifices for family and friends, has many talents but not always enough time to use them, great leadership qualities, is jealous at times but extremely loyal.
Maple Tree (Independence of Mind) - no ordinary person, full of imagination and originality, shy and reserved, ambitious, proud, self-confident, hungers for new experiences,
sometimes nervous, has many complexities, good memory, learns easily, complicated love life, wants to impress.
Oak Tree (Brave) - robust nature, courageous, strong, unrelenting, independent, sensible, does not like change, keeps its feet on the ground, person of action.
Olive Tree (Wisdom) -loves sun, warmth and kind feelings, reasonable, balanced, avoids aggression and violence, tolerant, cheerful, calm, well-developed sense of justice, sensitive, empathetic, free of jealousy, loves to read and the company of sophisticated people.
Pine Tree (Peacemaker) - loves agreeable company, craves peace and harmony, loves to help others, active imagination, likes to write poetry, not fashion conscious, great compassion,
friendly to all, falls strongly in love but will leave if betrayed or lied to, emotionally soft, low self esteem, needs affection and reassurance.
Poplar Tree (Uncertainty) -looks very decorative, talented, not very self-confident, extremely courageous if necessary, needs goodwill and pleasant surroundings, very choosy, often lonely, great animosity, great artistic nature, good organizer, tends to lean toward philosophy, reliable in any situation, takes partnership seriously.
Rowan Tree (Sensitivity) - Vivacous, full of charm, cheerful, gifted without egoism, likes to draw attention, loves life, motion, unrest, and even complications, is both dependent and independent, good taste, artistic, extremely passionate, emotional, good company, does not forgive.
Walnut Tree (Passion)- unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egotistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromise.
Weeping Willow (Melancholy) - likes to be stress free, loves family life, full of hopes and dreams, attractive, very empathetic, loves anything beautiful, musically inclined, loves to travel to exotic places, restless, capricious, honest, can be influenced but is not easy to live with when pressured, sometimes demanding, good intuition, suffers in love until they find that one loyal, steadfast partner; loves to make others laugh.
Find your birthday and then find your tree. This is cool and somewhat
accurate for me.
Jan 01 to Jan 11 - Fir Tree
Jan 12 to Jan 24 - Elm Tree
Jan 25 to Feb 03 - Cypress Tree
Feb 04 to Feb 08 - Poplar Tree
Feb 09 to Feb 18 - Cedar Tree
Feb 19 to Feb 28 - Pine Tree
Mar 01 to Mar 10 - Weeping Willow Tree
Mar 11 to Mar 20 - Lime Tree
Mar 21 (only) - Oak Tree
Mar 22 to Mar 31 -Hazelnut Tree
Apr 01 to Apr 10 - Rowan Tree
Apr 11 to Apr 20 - Maple Tree
Apr 21 to Apr 30 - Walnut Tree
May 01 to May 14 - Poplar Tree
May 15 to May 24 - Chestnut Tree
May 25 to Jun 03 - Ash Tree
Jun 04 to Jun 13 - Hornbeam Tree
Jun 14 to Jun 23 - Fig Tree
Jun 24 (only) - Birch Tree
Jun 25 to Jul 04 - Apple Tree
Jul 05 to Jul 14 - Fir Tree
Jul 15 to Jul 25 - Elm Tree
Jul 26 to Aug 04 - Cypress Tree
Aug 05 to Aug 13 - Poplar Tree
Aug 14 to Aug 23 - Cedar Tree
Aug 24 to Sep 02 - Pine Tree
Sep 03 to Sep 12 - Weeping Willow Tree
Sep 13 to Sep 22 - Lime Tree
Sep 23 (only) - Olive Tree
Sep 24 to Oct 03 - Hazelnut Tree
Oct 04 to Oct 13 - Rowan Tree
Oct 14 to Oct 23 - Maple Tree
Oct 24 to Nov 11 - Walnut Tree
Nov 12 to Nov 21 - Chestnut Tree
Nov 22 to Dec 01 - Ash Tree
Dec 02 to Dec 11 - Hornbeam Tree
Dec 12 to Dec 21 - Fig Tree
Dec 22 (only) - Beech Tree
Dec 23 to Jan 01 - Apple Tree
TREES (in alphabetical order)
Apple Tree (Love)- quiet and shy at times, lots of charm, appeal, and attraction, pleasant
attitude, flirtatious smile, adventurous, sensitive, loyal in love, wants to love and be loved, faithful and tender partner, very generous, many talents, loves children, needs affectionate partner.
Ash Tree (Ambition) -extremely attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism, ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with fate, can be very egotistic, reliable, restless lover, sometimes money rules over the heart, demands attention, needs love and much emotional support.
Beech Tree (Creative) - has good taste, concerned about its looks, materialistic, good organization of life and career, economical, good leader, takes no unnecessary risks, reasonable,splendid lifetime companion, keen on keeping fit (diets, sports, etc.).
Birch Tree (Inspiration) - vivacious, attractive, elegant,friendly, unpretentious, modest, does not like anything in excess, abhors the vulgar, loves life in nature and in calm, not very passionate, full of imagination, little ambition, creates a calm and content atmosphere.
Cedar Tree (Confidence) - of rare strength, knows how to adapt, likes unexpected presents, of good health, not in the least shy, tends to look down on others, self-confident, a great speaker, determined, often impatient, likes to impress others, has many talents, industrious, healthy optimism, waits for the one true love, able to make quick decisions.
Chestnut Tree (Honesty) - of unusual stature, impressive,well-developed sense of justice, fun to be around, a planner, born diplomat, can be irritated easily, sensitive of others feelings, hard worker, sometimes acts superior, feels not understood at times, fiercely family oriented, very loyal in love, physically fit.
Cypress Tree (Faithfulness) - strong, muscular, adaptable, takes what life has to give but doesn't necessarily like it, strives to be content, optimistic, wants to be financially independent, wants love and affection, hates loneliness, passionate lover which cannot be satisfied, faithful,
quick-tempered at times, can be unruly and careless, loves to gain knowledge, needs to be needed.
Elm Tree (Noble-mindedness) - pleasant shape, tasteful clothes, modest demands, tends not to forgive mistakes, cheerful, likes to lead but not to obey, honest and faithful
partner, likes making decisions for others, noble-minded, generous, good sense of humor, practical.
Fig Tree (Sensibility) - very strong minded, a bit self-willed, honest, loyal, independent, hates contradiction or arguments, hard worker when wants to be, loves life and friends, enjoys children and animals, sexually oriented, great sense of humor, has artistic talent
and great intelligence.
Fir tree (Mysterious) - extraordinary taste, handles stress well, loves anything beautiful, stubborn, tends to care for those close to them, hard to trust others, yet a social butterfly, likes idleness and laziness after long demanding hours at work, rather modest,talented, unselfish, many friends, very reliable.
Hazelnut Tree (Extraordinary) - charming, sense of humor, very demanding but can also be very understanding, knows how to make a lasting impression, active fighter for social causes and politics, popular, quite moody, sexually oriented, honest, a perfectionist, has a precise sense of judgment and expects complete fairness.
Hornbeam Tree (Good Taste) - of cool beauty, cares for its looks and condition, good taste, is not egoistic, makes life as comfortable as possible, leads a reasonable and disciplined life,
looks for kindness and acknowledgment in an emotional partner, dreams of unusual lovers, is seldom happy with its feelings, mistrusts most people, is never sure of its decisions, very conscientious.
Lime Tree (Doubt) - intelligent, hard working,accepts what life dishes out, but not before trying to change bad circumstances into good ones, hates fighting and stress, enjoys
getaway vacations, may appear tough, but is actually soft and relenting, always willing to make sacrifices for family and friends, has many talents but not always enough time to use them, great leadership qualities, is jealous at times but extremely loyal.
Maple Tree (Independence of Mind) - no ordinary person, full of imagination and originality, shy and reserved, ambitious, proud, self-confident, hungers for new experiences,
sometimes nervous, has many complexities, good memory, learns easily, complicated love life, wants to impress.
Oak Tree (Brave) - robust nature, courageous, strong, unrelenting, independent, sensible, does not like change, keeps its feet on the ground, person of action.
Olive Tree (Wisdom) -loves sun, warmth and kind feelings, reasonable, balanced, avoids aggression and violence, tolerant, cheerful, calm, well-developed sense of justice, sensitive, empathetic, free of jealousy, loves to read and the company of sophisticated people.
Pine Tree (Peacemaker) - loves agreeable company, craves peace and harmony, loves to help others, active imagination, likes to write poetry, not fashion conscious, great compassion,
friendly to all, falls strongly in love but will leave if betrayed or lied to, emotionally soft, low self esteem, needs affection and reassurance.
Poplar Tree (Uncertainty) -looks very decorative, talented, not very self-confident, extremely courageous if necessary, needs goodwill and pleasant surroundings, very choosy, often lonely, great animosity, great artistic nature, good organizer, tends to lean toward philosophy, reliable in any situation, takes partnership seriously.
Rowan Tree (Sensitivity) - Vivacous, full of charm, cheerful, gifted without egoism, likes to draw attention, loves life, motion, unrest, and even complications, is both dependent and independent, good taste, artistic, extremely passionate, emotional, good company, does not forgive.
Walnut Tree (Passion)- unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egotistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromise.
Weeping Willow (Melancholy) - likes to be stress free, loves family life, full of hopes and dreams, attractive, very empathetic, loves anything beautiful, musically inclined, loves to travel to exotic places, restless, capricious, honest, can be influenced but is not easy to live with when pressured, sometimes demanding, good intuition, suffers in love until they find that one loyal, steadfast partner; loves to make others laugh.
Monday, September 22, 2008
Amazing - Lindy Hop Showdown in 2006
My God, look at them doing the aerials 'socially'...they dun look choreographed to me! Amazing
Saturday, September 20, 2008
Good old Debbie Gibson
Sis and i always belted her numbers in this Electric Youth album...
Brilliant songs
1. No More Rhyme
2. We could be together
3. Should have been the one
4. Who loves ya Baby?
5. Shake your love
6. Lost in your eyes
7. Electric youth
8. Silence Speaks a thousand words
9. Over the wall
Brilliant songs
1. No More Rhyme
2. We could be together
3. Should have been the one
4. Who loves ya Baby?
5. Shake your love
6. Lost in your eyes
7. Electric youth
8. Silence Speaks a thousand words
9. Over the wall
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Taking for granted.
There seem to be more flashbacks coming back to me now than when im in it. Where i used to go, what i used to do, who i used to deal with and things like that.
I realised that i have spent most of my energy minding things that friends could accompany me to do and when he is not there. KTV, Dancing, Guitar etc. Suddenly, when i went to bowl with my colleagues yesterday, i remember i used to go bowling with my friends and him. Go to play pool, arcade, movies....I could remember all the past activities i used to do.
I've seen more movies back then than now. Now, it is more of finding someone who has the same taste to watch a movie. It used to be, "I wana watch this movie, free? Free? let's go!" I hardly hear or feel such things now.
People around me seems to be more busy than i am now. People busy with travelling, with work, with staying at home, with their partner and their own activities.
I've been busy developing and growing myself, at my own pace and leaving him behind then. Now, i've been slowing down, due to financial commitments, new job scope and all. I have more time to think about things now. I have more positive energy around me now than ever. Then i start to find people being negative around me. Its weird how things turn out.
I guess, when people are more negative, all things he/she mattered are all about themselves, and when the positive energy starts to increase much more, you take a step back, and suddenly realised what you have used to take things/people for granted.
Some things, can still be changed. Others, once lost, can only be left as good memories.
I realised that i have spent most of my energy minding things that friends could accompany me to do and when he is not there. KTV, Dancing, Guitar etc. Suddenly, when i went to bowl with my colleagues yesterday, i remember i used to go bowling with my friends and him. Go to play pool, arcade, movies....I could remember all the past activities i used to do.
I've seen more movies back then than now. Now, it is more of finding someone who has the same taste to watch a movie. It used to be, "I wana watch this movie, free? Free? let's go!" I hardly hear or feel such things now.
People around me seems to be more busy than i am now. People busy with travelling, with work, with staying at home, with their partner and their own activities.
I've been busy developing and growing myself, at my own pace and leaving him behind then. Now, i've been slowing down, due to financial commitments, new job scope and all. I have more time to think about things now. I have more positive energy around me now than ever. Then i start to find people being negative around me. Its weird how things turn out.
I guess, when people are more negative, all things he/she mattered are all about themselves, and when the positive energy starts to increase much more, you take a step back, and suddenly realised what you have used to take things/people for granted.
Some things, can still be changed. Others, once lost, can only be left as good memories.
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Black Forest - 《還我自由》 My Freedom
This is the MV of the song 還我自由 in the movie 六月 and its performed by Blackforest Band (Ernest's band). If you look at the lead singer, that's Ernest!
Saturday, September 13, 2008
原来幸福是这么简单
I jio sis to bring the gals downstairs to play the lantern i bought for them in KL. So mum and sis bought mooncakes, we gather at sis place after dinner today.
We packed the stuff, went to the playground downstairs, play, sit and eat. The gals were running away, playing away, mum and my sis MIL eating and talking away, Dad, me, sis and meng, entertaining the two. I was a overgrown kid, in size and age playing away with the kids at the playground. At a point, i was tired. Took a rest and then a nice picture appeared before me.
Peace and happiness. My whole family + extended family were enjoying the night, at a simple playground, with simple mooncakes, 2 kids and a bright moon.
I never knew happiness could be that simple.
We packed the stuff, went to the playground downstairs, play, sit and eat. The gals were running away, playing away, mum and my sis MIL eating and talking away, Dad, me, sis and meng, entertaining the two. I was a overgrown kid, in size and age playing away with the kids at the playground. At a point, i was tired. Took a rest and then a nice picture appeared before me.
Peace and happiness. My whole family + extended family were enjoying the night, at a simple playground, with simple mooncakes, 2 kids and a bright moon.
I never knew happiness could be that simple.
Friday, September 12, 2008
A surprise
He used to be my subordinate.
He is a low profile man.
He is 41 this year.
He is single.
After his resignation, we organised for a get together and a farewell for him. We urge him to bring his wife, a Filipino of my age. We were curious how his wife looks like. We invited her along.
On the actual day, he turn up. WIth his wife and a kid. This fellow have a 2 year old son! KNS. To think we were soo concerned about him and urging him to have a bb soon as he is not young already. Wah kao. Bernard was shocked. He 'teach' him positions to do to get a boy, we spoke to him about getting a bb soon since government is encouraging....all for a big surprise.
I din understand why he couldnt tell us the truth when we were soo concerned with his offspring. I dont care if they are not married, if the bb is given birth somewhere else or whatever. As long its his kid, he just have to let people know. Its a happy thing. Very happy thing.
He is a low profile man.
He is 41 this year.
He is single.
After his resignation, we organised for a get together and a farewell for him. We urge him to bring his wife, a Filipino of my age. We were curious how his wife looks like. We invited her along.
On the actual day, he turn up. WIth his wife and a kid. This fellow have a 2 year old son! KNS. To think we were soo concerned about him and urging him to have a bb soon as he is not young already. Wah kao. Bernard was shocked. He 'teach' him positions to do to get a boy, we spoke to him about getting a bb soon since government is encouraging....all for a big surprise.
I din understand why he couldnt tell us the truth when we were soo concerned with his offspring. I dont care if they are not married, if the bb is given birth somewhere else or whatever. As long its his kid, he just have to let people know. Its a happy thing. Very happy thing.
A hurtful statement made
We were talking about the HK show on channel u. I proudly proclaimed to her, "See, your 2 gals never give you much problems k. We are good girls."
"yah, but you will get married too. My partner not as good"
"No choice, think of it, if you were not with him, you might not have us. You gain some and lose some..."
She suddenly talk about making a will or do up something. I said, "Leave money for me lor.."
Guess what the reply is.
"Im not leaving u and him money. Your money will be in a trust. I know you will give him money and i've decided i've given him enuff help"
My heart sank. Not on the fact that she is not leaving me money, but she is questioning the fact that im supporting him when he does not bother to look for a job. My god, do i really have a choice. If he doesnt get a job, am i suppose to see him starve, let him nag and stress me emotionally. If it was that easy to get him to go find a job, he would have been working now.
My logic is simple. He doesnt drive, he doesnt get into debt. If he doesnt work and i can afford to give him more, i save unforseen trouble. Though i know im spoiling him, but can i really not give him money? I've known him all my 28years. I know his pattern. I'm just paying silently for a hope that he doesnt get into trouble, and put his knowledge to good and non irritable way.
"yah, but you will get married too. My partner not as good"
"No choice, think of it, if you were not with him, you might not have us. You gain some and lose some..."
She suddenly talk about making a will or do up something. I said, "Leave money for me lor.."
Guess what the reply is.
"Im not leaving u and him money. Your money will be in a trust. I know you will give him money and i've decided i've given him enuff help"
My heart sank. Not on the fact that she is not leaving me money, but she is questioning the fact that im supporting him when he does not bother to look for a job. My god, do i really have a choice. If he doesnt get a job, am i suppose to see him starve, let him nag and stress me emotionally. If it was that easy to get him to go find a job, he would have been working now.
My logic is simple. He doesnt drive, he doesnt get into debt. If he doesnt work and i can afford to give him more, i save unforseen trouble. Though i know im spoiling him, but can i really not give him money? I've known him all my 28years. I know his pattern. I'm just paying silently for a hope that he doesnt get into trouble, and put his knowledge to good and non irritable way.
Will n estate planning
Attended a lunchtime talk on the above and had more understanding on the matter
Things discussed
1. Advantages of a will
2. Who gets the money (if any left) from a death?
3. Estate planning
In summary, it seems that there is a lot to learn about this subject. And it is very important. It speeds up the process for claims compared to not setting up a will.
My suggestion. If you have the time, look into this matter and learn from it. There's a lot of logic in it and you might deny and give yourself numerous excuses. But its always the living ones that will need to settle your stuff. Think for the living and your loved ones...
Things discussed
1. Advantages of a will
2. Who gets the money (if any left) from a death?
3. Estate planning
In summary, it seems that there is a lot to learn about this subject. And it is very important. It speeds up the process for claims compared to not setting up a will.
My suggestion. If you have the time, look into this matter and learn from it. There's a lot of logic in it and you might deny and give yourself numerous excuses. But its always the living ones that will need to settle your stuff. Think for the living and your loved ones...
Thursday, September 11, 2008
An experience
I know im not prepared to meet him.
I know the guilt is still there.
I know deep down that its still painful just that it never really surface.
Yet, i agreed. Deep down, im scared. Not sure what to expect. Too many what if's in my head.
He needed my help to help bring his passport down so he do not need to park his car. He offered a morning lift to work. I do not have reason to reject. I said Yes on a reply message.
I woke up late in the morning. Rush. Late AGAIN. He prolly thinks so but wouldnt say me anymore. We were sort of caught in a little morning jam. He drove. In his new yellow Honda. The familiar feeling of being in a car came rushing back to me. Soo familiar. I did not enjoy the feeling. The guilt sink in. I attempted to behave normally. I was struggling inside. I can do this, i told myself. I did.
When i alighted and went up to collect the passport, my colleague say he sort of expected the person to collect the passport works in this office. Sigh. Went down, pass to him and msn sis. I cried in the office.
I am still when im blogging now. I salute my courage. Way to go! Ganbatte!
I know the guilt is still there.
I know deep down that its still painful just that it never really surface.
Yet, i agreed. Deep down, im scared. Not sure what to expect. Too many what if's in my head.
He needed my help to help bring his passport down so he do not need to park his car. He offered a morning lift to work. I do not have reason to reject. I said Yes on a reply message.
I woke up late in the morning. Rush. Late AGAIN. He prolly thinks so but wouldnt say me anymore. We were sort of caught in a little morning jam. He drove. In his new yellow Honda. The familiar feeling of being in a car came rushing back to me. Soo familiar. I did not enjoy the feeling. The guilt sink in. I attempted to behave normally. I was struggling inside. I can do this, i told myself. I did.
When i alighted and went up to collect the passport, my colleague say he sort of expected the person to collect the passport works in this office. Sigh. Went down, pass to him and msn sis. I cried in the office.
I am still when im blogging now. I salute my courage. Way to go! Ganbatte!
Friday, September 05, 2008
Welcome Tea Videos 08
Here are videos of the 3 performance performed for the new NTU Lindy newbies....
1. West Coast routine - Choreograghed by Jing Yang. Performed by Shermaine, Sharon, Taufan and Jing Yang
2. Bearcut routine - Choreographed by Brian. Performed by Hozzy, Brian, Kalai and Jing Yang
3. Flat Foot Floogie - Not sure who choreo. Should be the Harlem Hot Shots. Performed by Me! Hozzy, Kalai, Fern, Yee Lin
1. West Coast routine - Choreograghed by Jing Yang. Performed by Shermaine, Sharon, Taufan and Jing Yang
2. Bearcut routine - Choreographed by Brian. Performed by Hozzy, Brian, Kalai and Jing Yang
3. Flat Foot Floogie - Not sure who choreo. Should be the Harlem Hot Shots. Performed by Me! Hozzy, Kalai, Fern, Yee Lin
Money not enough 2
Went to see this movie recently and i must admit, that it really points out to some problems encountered by the elderly.
I enjoyed the later part of the movie more, for the fact that it is highlighting a very close to heart topic. "Who should look after the elderly when they age?" This question is not the hardest to answer. It will always be the hardest when an elderly is ill. MEntally or physically. The ending also highlighted a common question. "Who to save, mother or daughter?"
In the movie, the old lady has 3 sons. The eldest being the poorest and most down to earth, was the one looking after the mother before she was ill. The 2nd and third son, have been successful in their careers, with the third living in a bungalow. Being the richer lot, the 2nd and 3rd could provide the cash when needed and so when the mother was diagnosed with diabetes, all sons have a discussion and concluded to have the mother sent to a private hospital for earlier caretaking.
The problem started when all 3 sons run into problems with their career and needed cash to tide them over. Each went to the mother for help and requesting the mother not to breathe a word to the other son.
Being the mother, she felt helpless as she was not able to help much for her son. She then went to 'beg' people for money and when others refused, she would pretend to be pitiful and cry, in view of gaining sympathy. In her attempt to do so, she was caught by the social welfare people and the sons had to bring her home from the police station.
All the sons said was, "ah ma, where can we put our face in future?" My heart breaks upon hearing it. Many a times, we accused others prior asking why. Im guilty of it and believe many others are too. Easy to say, hard to practise.
Then the sons started to think about taking turns to look after the mother who seems to be a little forgetful about things. She could ask the same questions again and again, or being get up at night to look for her lingerie, forgetting that she is actually wearing it.
Other than being forgetful, the old lady had bowel control problems. As time goes, the children were tired and some for convenience sake, left her sleeping in the toilet or near the toilet as she was deemed as an 'ugly' sight with her hanging clothes around the house and deemed not a good sight for visitors.
After much time, all sons decided to send her to a home. The lady could have better care and more company, they claimed. And so, on the occasion when she was sent to the home, she collapsed after suddenly realising she is left at a home and could only see her son running away.
She was then brought in to the private hospital. After days when she was still in a coma, the cost was piling up. Failure from their careers did no help either. The thought of her leaving earlier came to their mind as they could no longer bear the cost. They got a talisman which is supposedly to take their bedded mother's life away after burning it. With much courage, they managed to burn it but stop the burning halfway when the guilt sinks in.
Suddenly the bedded lady got into a critical condition and needed blood transfusion. She, having a rare blood type O-, had the last 2 bags of blood in the hospital.
Suddenly, one of the sons receive news that his daughter was involved in an accident. She needed blood transfusion too. As fate has it, she is of blood type O- as well and was in the same hospital as the old mother. Due to poor health, the son and daughter-in-law could not donate blood and the daughter-in-law rushed to snatch the last 2 bag of blood from the doctor saving the old mother.
In their struggle to decide who to save with the 2 bags of blood, the old lady heard the commotion and in her 'critical condition' manage to pull her oxygen support mask from her mouth and chose to die.
Forget the fact how it could be possible that an old lady can 'kill' herself, or what a coincidence it can be to have 2 cases requiring a rare blood type in a single hospital and decision is to be made on who to save, the movie pointed out questions for us to ponder.
1. Possible old age problems that requires large financial support
2. Who should take care of the elderly? In good health and when sick?
3. Should the richer contributes more?
4. Is old folk's home an alternative?
5. Who to save in emergency? The old elderly or the young sick?
There is definitely no correct answer in the above but points to remember and think about.
I enjoyed the later part of the movie more, for the fact that it is highlighting a very close to heart topic. "Who should look after the elderly when they age?" This question is not the hardest to answer. It will always be the hardest when an elderly is ill. MEntally or physically. The ending also highlighted a common question. "Who to save, mother or daughter?"
In the movie, the old lady has 3 sons. The eldest being the poorest and most down to earth, was the one looking after the mother before she was ill. The 2nd and third son, have been successful in their careers, with the third living in a bungalow. Being the richer lot, the 2nd and 3rd could provide the cash when needed and so when the mother was diagnosed with diabetes, all sons have a discussion and concluded to have the mother sent to a private hospital for earlier caretaking.
The problem started when all 3 sons run into problems with their career and needed cash to tide them over. Each went to the mother for help and requesting the mother not to breathe a word to the other son.
Being the mother, she felt helpless as she was not able to help much for her son. She then went to 'beg' people for money and when others refused, she would pretend to be pitiful and cry, in view of gaining sympathy. In her attempt to do so, she was caught by the social welfare people and the sons had to bring her home from the police station.
All the sons said was, "ah ma, where can we put our face in future?" My heart breaks upon hearing it. Many a times, we accused others prior asking why. Im guilty of it and believe many others are too. Easy to say, hard to practise.
Then the sons started to think about taking turns to look after the mother who seems to be a little forgetful about things. She could ask the same questions again and again, or being get up at night to look for her lingerie, forgetting that she is actually wearing it.
Other than being forgetful, the old lady had bowel control problems. As time goes, the children were tired and some for convenience sake, left her sleeping in the toilet or near the toilet as she was deemed as an 'ugly' sight with her hanging clothes around the house and deemed not a good sight for visitors.
After much time, all sons decided to send her to a home. The lady could have better care and more company, they claimed. And so, on the occasion when she was sent to the home, she collapsed after suddenly realising she is left at a home and could only see her son running away.
She was then brought in to the private hospital. After days when she was still in a coma, the cost was piling up. Failure from their careers did no help either. The thought of her leaving earlier came to their mind as they could no longer bear the cost. They got a talisman which is supposedly to take their bedded mother's life away after burning it. With much courage, they managed to burn it but stop the burning halfway when the guilt sinks in.
Suddenly the bedded lady got into a critical condition and needed blood transfusion. She, having a rare blood type O-, had the last 2 bags of blood in the hospital.
Suddenly, one of the sons receive news that his daughter was involved in an accident. She needed blood transfusion too. As fate has it, she is of blood type O- as well and was in the same hospital as the old mother. Due to poor health, the son and daughter-in-law could not donate blood and the daughter-in-law rushed to snatch the last 2 bag of blood from the doctor saving the old mother.
In their struggle to decide who to save with the 2 bags of blood, the old lady heard the commotion and in her 'critical condition' manage to pull her oxygen support mask from her mouth and chose to die.
Forget the fact how it could be possible that an old lady can 'kill' herself, or what a coincidence it can be to have 2 cases requiring a rare blood type in a single hospital and decision is to be made on who to save, the movie pointed out questions for us to ponder.
1. Possible old age problems that requires large financial support
2. Who should take care of the elderly? In good health and when sick?
3. Should the richer contributes more?
4. Is old folk's home an alternative?
5. Who to save in emergency? The old elderly or the young sick?
There is definitely no correct answer in the above but points to remember and think about.
Miscarriage vs Abortion
The former being natural or spontaneous end of a pregnancy at a stage where the prenate is incapable of surviving. The latter, would mean terminated pregnancy, delibrately induced.
I've heard of cases of the above. In which i felt, adults, and sometimes teens, need to understand the consequences they will need to bear before any action.
A life is always a life. If you think before you do, it helps a lot.
Be it the former or the latter, both are harmful and damaging to a woman, physically and mentally. Think of those people who wants a baby but are unable to conceive. Think of those who lost their baby at 8mths (my colleague encountered it). Think of how scary it is when a simple decision one makes, a life is ended.
A baby is a gift from God. Treasure when you have it.
I've heard of cases of the above. In which i felt, adults, and sometimes teens, need to understand the consequences they will need to bear before any action.
A life is always a life. If you think before you do, it helps a lot.
Be it the former or the latter, both are harmful and damaging to a woman, physically and mentally. Think of those people who wants a baby but are unable to conceive. Think of those who lost their baby at 8mths (my colleague encountered it). Think of how scary it is when a simple decision one makes, a life is ended.
A baby is a gift from God. Treasure when you have it.
My first experience of a funeral and at Mandai Cremetorium
I've sent Uncle Larry and Ah Gong only from the wake as i was asked to stay to look after the kids and Popo on the respective occasion. I could only remembered waiting for the rest of them back after around 2 hours. I've heard them describe how it is at the crematorium, but never experienced it.
This time, sis was asked to stay. We followed the coffin car out as it was playing the song. A song, that i couldnt recognise but will tear upon hearing it. This is the day. The last day that i will see her body.
I teared, rather badly i think, but i was able to control myself. I choose to sit alone in the bus, for some peace. We were on the way to St Joseph Church for the funeral mass.
As we reached, popo's body in the coffin was pushed to the front and later covered with a cloth and bible and the cross.
THough i do not quite understand what was being said by the Father and all, i felt sad. I was quietly thinking about what i last remember of popo and how a life could varnish before my own eyes.
I could remember the times when we were still young and all were still living in the kampung near this church. It is a childhood place, one that is filled with lots of memories.
Yet, today, it is not for a mass that i'm here, nor for a wedding that im here. We are gathered here, in this sacred place to say goodbye.
After the mass, we set off for Mandai Crementorium. THe journey seems long. An everlasting one. Deep down, i sort of hope that it will never lead me to the destination. BUt it never happens. I did not enjoy this bus ride. Totally.
Onece there, we waiting outside the service hall 2. Inside the hall, it was like a down flight of stairs with seats alongside and a resting place in front where the coffin would be placed. We sang hymns, prayed for her and when the time comes to place flowers on the coffin, i fear for the worst. That someone would cry out loud and breakdown. I'm glad the latter did not happen. To pre-ampt such incident, Uncle Jerome had tasked the guys to each take care of an Auntie, just in case. Then we went on to the viewing hall to watch.
I heard that it is automated. I heard we will see how the coffin is 'pushed' automatically to the 'furnace'. Then, i see right before my eyes, how it happen. A door will open to show the 'furnace'. Then popo's coffin is on this automated 'trolley' and the whole process of how the coffin went into a 'furnace' is shown. This 'furnace' is not as i've pictured in the older days where we will see the fire burning. Its just another box which the coffin is pushed in and i presume, the body will then be burnt there.
As i was on the path of discovery, Auntie Lay started crying, loudly. I was affected by her cries and tear continuously. I hate to see this scene. I hate to experience this. Not a moment that i enjoyed but a moment that i see great sadness and family bonding.
I dare to say, I'm glad and proud to be part of this family.
To all my aunties and uncles, stay strong. Popo has gone to look for ah gong and uncle larry, to be with the lord. God bless.
This time, sis was asked to stay. We followed the coffin car out as it was playing the song. A song, that i couldnt recognise but will tear upon hearing it. This is the day. The last day that i will see her body.
I teared, rather badly i think, but i was able to control myself. I choose to sit alone in the bus, for some peace. We were on the way to St Joseph Church for the funeral mass.
As we reached, popo's body in the coffin was pushed to the front and later covered with a cloth and bible and the cross.
THough i do not quite understand what was being said by the Father and all, i felt sad. I was quietly thinking about what i last remember of popo and how a life could varnish before my own eyes.
I could remember the times when we were still young and all were still living in the kampung near this church. It is a childhood place, one that is filled with lots of memories.
Yet, today, it is not for a mass that i'm here, nor for a wedding that im here. We are gathered here, in this sacred place to say goodbye.
After the mass, we set off for Mandai Crementorium. THe journey seems long. An everlasting one. Deep down, i sort of hope that it will never lead me to the destination. BUt it never happens. I did not enjoy this bus ride. Totally.
Onece there, we waiting outside the service hall 2. Inside the hall, it was like a down flight of stairs with seats alongside and a resting place in front where the coffin would be placed. We sang hymns, prayed for her and when the time comes to place flowers on the coffin, i fear for the worst. That someone would cry out loud and breakdown. I'm glad the latter did not happen. To pre-ampt such incident, Uncle Jerome had tasked the guys to each take care of an Auntie, just in case. Then we went on to the viewing hall to watch.
I heard that it is automated. I heard we will see how the coffin is 'pushed' automatically to the 'furnace'. Then, i see right before my eyes, how it happen. A door will open to show the 'furnace'. Then popo's coffin is on this automated 'trolley' and the whole process of how the coffin went into a 'furnace' is shown. This 'furnace' is not as i've pictured in the older days where we will see the fire burning. Its just another box which the coffin is pushed in and i presume, the body will then be burnt there.
As i was on the path of discovery, Auntie Lay started crying, loudly. I was affected by her cries and tear continuously. I hate to see this scene. I hate to experience this. Not a moment that i enjoyed but a moment that i see great sadness and family bonding.
I dare to say, I'm glad and proud to be part of this family.
To all my aunties and uncles, stay strong. Popo has gone to look for ah gong and uncle larry, to be with the lord. God bless.
Wednesday, September 03, 2008
Grandma's gone
I was at the F & P Nations Cup with MX when i receive an sms from mum, "Popo is at nuh@emergency. They are doing cpr to revive her" I was like, "huh"....i called mum, "what happened?"
After calling sis next, i left immediately to take a cab. Never felt that long for me to ever find a cab. I couldnt hail one off the road, went to the taxi stand instead.
While in the cab, i was like wondering y the driver is taking soo long to reach, y he is taking this route and if grandma leave us, did she like grandpa, chose a sunday? There were too many questions in my head, and i needed answers.
Just when the cab turn into the hospital, sis sms, "popo passed away". My gosh. I alighted, run to the emergency and open the door to the counselling room. Mum and a few others were inside crying. Godma was with grandma when grandma passed out. They had wanted to bring her for a foot reflexology to enjoy after her discharged from the hospital. Uncle Jerome was with them. On numerous occasions, grandma was tired and they took a rest. But she passed out before reaching the reflexology and after sometime, her limps were cold. Uncle Jerome was at somewhere buying a wheelchair for grandma and had to help call the ambulance. It took sometime for the ambulance to come but once arrived, they performed cpr all the way to the hospital. Grandma did not survive and passed away...
She is 83. After 3months and 13 days after grandpa died, she left us. Within a year, we encountered 3 deaths. Uncle Larry, grandpa and grandma. The aunties cried badly when we were allowed to see grandma's body. I remembered the last i saw her, was at the hospital when she was warded for further observations and test after her fall. She seemed blur then, prolly shocked from her fall. She seems alright then. Never expect her to go...
Life seems soo fragile. The minute you see her/him, the next minute, that same person might be gone. Although i know its hard to do and at times, its not within your own control, but we should try to do something for our love ones. Rong Biao mentioned that kinship is the most important and priceless relationship. I agreed. But added a statement that it is also the most neglected. Man then to take things for granted. I acknowledge that and is one party that is practising that. Takes time to change.....
Anyway, we had to go home and start preparing for all required. The death was due to a heart failure after the post mortem diagonosis the following day. Mum went to stay over at Auntie beth's place and the house was left for me and dad.
Everyday was work, hospital, work hospital. I was the one to break the news to Aunt Margaret who has gone back to BVI. I called in her wee hours and told her, "ah yee, popo passed away already. we are at the hospital now and i will call again to update later. and we ended the conversation." I couldnt hold back my tears as they drop down my eyes.
I also had to break the news to auntie angela who is popo's fren organising a trip to Rome. It was a trip specially organised for popo by her frens due to her enthusiasm and her being well like. She tot i was joking, i hope too, but no. Then Ryan and I spend sometime waiting for others to come and visit grandma before she is sent to the mortuary. Lots of tissues were used, discussion on the signs popo show before she passed away, and even self blame. Godma blamed herself for bring popo to a walk but we consoled her that it isnt the case. No one would have expected that to happen.
As the preparation for the wake and funeral begins, through past experience, i decided to not get myself soo involved in the preps. However, still got a 'scolding' from jean after i ask, "the money seems quite significant and we want to bring the money up." The reply came with a irritated look, "then just bring it up lah." Come on, i needed to know where to place the cash ah! What wrong have i done! Was pissed about that comment that i declared, im never gonna ask the ling sisters for anything again in such occasion. Come on, who is not upset? Did i ask something that DESERVE such treatment? I know you are upset, tired but i needed to work too lor! I hated it whenever the seniors think they will be more upset and can be irritated. Pls lah. There's never a real gauge of who is more upset. Its just how a person deals with it. Seriously, Im glad both my grandparents did not have to suffer much before they leave. And yes, we need to be more rationale when handling the wake preps, not let emotions rule. Things needed to be done and a clear mind helps.
Then when i was at the office, i must say that my new boss is very nice. When i told him of the news as i needed to take leave on thursday for the funeral, he goes "we are rather flexible here, do take leave if you need to." Sounded soo angelic. And he was the only one who wants to send a wreath on his own, initiated to find out more on whether i could take compassionate leave and ask if others wants to go to the wake together. In the end, he was the only one who makes an effort to come. Im not saying that people who doesn't appear is not good, but just saying that people who makes an effort to come are really nice. I've learnt over the years that no matter what, its always nice to let people noe that you care. Its really heartwarming.
And i wanted to add on that my boss even ask me to take friday off cos i will most probably be tired and needed rest. My gosh, he's soo sweet. Dun be mistaken cos my new boss is old enuff to be my dad i think. At that point of time, i just felt nice.
When mp was asked if she wana go down to the wake together, the only question she ask me is, "where is the wake?" and her reaction was "soo far...err dun think i'll go" when she hear me say CCK is the location of the wake. MP is my ex-boss-boss. See the difference? I know im in good hands from now on.
Anyway, tomorrow is the last day to see popo. I'll always remember her with her self wrapped cigarette, her birds, her smile, the look when i irritate her on purpose and many more......I'll missed you deeply....Please take good care when you are in heaven with grandpa.
Lots of love....
After calling sis next, i left immediately to take a cab. Never felt that long for me to ever find a cab. I couldnt hail one off the road, went to the taxi stand instead.
While in the cab, i was like wondering y the driver is taking soo long to reach, y he is taking this route and if grandma leave us, did she like grandpa, chose a sunday? There were too many questions in my head, and i needed answers.
Just when the cab turn into the hospital, sis sms, "popo passed away". My gosh. I alighted, run to the emergency and open the door to the counselling room. Mum and a few others were inside crying. Godma was with grandma when grandma passed out. They had wanted to bring her for a foot reflexology to enjoy after her discharged from the hospital. Uncle Jerome was with them. On numerous occasions, grandma was tired and they took a rest. But she passed out before reaching the reflexology and after sometime, her limps were cold. Uncle Jerome was at somewhere buying a wheelchair for grandma and had to help call the ambulance. It took sometime for the ambulance to come but once arrived, they performed cpr all the way to the hospital. Grandma did not survive and passed away...
She is 83. After 3months and 13 days after grandpa died, she left us. Within a year, we encountered 3 deaths. Uncle Larry, grandpa and grandma. The aunties cried badly when we were allowed to see grandma's body. I remembered the last i saw her, was at the hospital when she was warded for further observations and test after her fall. She seemed blur then, prolly shocked from her fall. She seems alright then. Never expect her to go...
Life seems soo fragile. The minute you see her/him, the next minute, that same person might be gone. Although i know its hard to do and at times, its not within your own control, but we should try to do something for our love ones. Rong Biao mentioned that kinship is the most important and priceless relationship. I agreed. But added a statement that it is also the most neglected. Man then to take things for granted. I acknowledge that and is one party that is practising that. Takes time to change.....
Anyway, we had to go home and start preparing for all required. The death was due to a heart failure after the post mortem diagonosis the following day. Mum went to stay over at Auntie beth's place and the house was left for me and dad.
Everyday was work, hospital, work hospital. I was the one to break the news to Aunt Margaret who has gone back to BVI. I called in her wee hours and told her, "ah yee, popo passed away already. we are at the hospital now and i will call again to update later. and we ended the conversation." I couldnt hold back my tears as they drop down my eyes.
I also had to break the news to auntie angela who is popo's fren organising a trip to Rome. It was a trip specially organised for popo by her frens due to her enthusiasm and her being well like. She tot i was joking, i hope too, but no. Then Ryan and I spend sometime waiting for others to come and visit grandma before she is sent to the mortuary. Lots of tissues were used, discussion on the signs popo show before she passed away, and even self blame. Godma blamed herself for bring popo to a walk but we consoled her that it isnt the case. No one would have expected that to happen.
As the preparation for the wake and funeral begins, through past experience, i decided to not get myself soo involved in the preps. However, still got a 'scolding' from jean after i ask, "the money seems quite significant and we want to bring the money up." The reply came with a irritated look, "then just bring it up lah." Come on, i needed to know where to place the cash ah! What wrong have i done! Was pissed about that comment that i declared, im never gonna ask the ling sisters for anything again in such occasion. Come on, who is not upset? Did i ask something that DESERVE such treatment? I know you are upset, tired but i needed to work too lor! I hated it whenever the seniors think they will be more upset and can be irritated. Pls lah. There's never a real gauge of who is more upset. Its just how a person deals with it. Seriously, Im glad both my grandparents did not have to suffer much before they leave. And yes, we need to be more rationale when handling the wake preps, not let emotions rule. Things needed to be done and a clear mind helps.
Then when i was at the office, i must say that my new boss is very nice. When i told him of the news as i needed to take leave on thursday for the funeral, he goes "we are rather flexible here, do take leave if you need to." Sounded soo angelic. And he was the only one who wants to send a wreath on his own, initiated to find out more on whether i could take compassionate leave and ask if others wants to go to the wake together. In the end, he was the only one who makes an effort to come. Im not saying that people who doesn't appear is not good, but just saying that people who makes an effort to come are really nice. I've learnt over the years that no matter what, its always nice to let people noe that you care. Its really heartwarming.
And i wanted to add on that my boss even ask me to take friday off cos i will most probably be tired and needed rest. My gosh, he's soo sweet. Dun be mistaken cos my new boss is old enuff to be my dad i think. At that point of time, i just felt nice.
When mp was asked if she wana go down to the wake together, the only question she ask me is, "where is the wake?" and her reaction was "soo far...err dun think i'll go" when she hear me say CCK is the location of the wake. MP is my ex-boss-boss. See the difference? I know im in good hands from now on.
Anyway, tomorrow is the last day to see popo. I'll always remember her with her self wrapped cigarette, her birds, her smile, the look when i irritate her on purpose and many more......I'll missed you deeply....Please take good care when you are in heaven with grandpa.
Lots of love....
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