Well, finally, the trip is coming soon. Im going Hong Kong in the first 2 weeks of May to support my Hong Kong Partner for their system migration.
On one hand, im glad that im going. I need a break. Break from the house (though im still a bit worried leaving both of them together), break from office, and break from Singapore?
I guess, i just want to see different things and not get soo bored down by unhappy things.
Like my friend say, its good to take a break if you need to.
So, off i go next sat and i'll be back by Vesak day.
Will be back with lots of photos. Guarantteed.
Saturday, April 26, 2008
Loss at words?
Spoke to him when he gave me a drive to office that day.
"Me and sis have decided to help you pay for the housing instalments"
Totally unprepared, I was shocked at his reaction over the statement i made
"Y must pay them? i have no money now. pay later. especially when they include the late payment charges and the interest on it, i would not even want to pay!"
huh? Am i hearing things? Don't you owe them money? and they are wrong for charging you a late fee? Aren't he suppose to be grateful and just say thanks? Is it that hard to say thank you?
I told him, "i don't care if you like it or not. But that will be it."
"How do you pay them?" i asked further
"there's a book. I go there to pay"
"Im not going there with the book to pay. I'll just go the the automated SAM machine. Or online..", crazy, i thought. Im not gonna spend my time to go there to pay.
He make such a fuss over it. Help to pay and yet must do it his way. Ridiculous
He MUST be informed if you pay on his behalf. Else, be prepared for a scolding.
Some people are just stubborn.
And im just helping by making sure he has a roof to stay. And we are prepared if he do not give us any money back if they were to sell the house one day. What to do.
Im just glad that this episode is closed. No matter how unwilling i want to do it, because it adds to my burden, i just want to make sure i have a roof to stay.
This might not be the best way, cos the emotional stress is still there staying under the same roof, but its the only way i can cover my relunctantness to move, and guarantee his shelter.
Thanks sis.
"Me and sis have decided to help you pay for the housing instalments"
Totally unprepared, I was shocked at his reaction over the statement i made
"Y must pay them? i have no money now. pay later. especially when they include the late payment charges and the interest on it, i would not even want to pay!"
huh? Am i hearing things? Don't you owe them money? and they are wrong for charging you a late fee? Aren't he suppose to be grateful and just say thanks? Is it that hard to say thank you?
I told him, "i don't care if you like it or not. But that will be it."
"How do you pay them?" i asked further
"there's a book. I go there to pay"
"Im not going there with the book to pay. I'll just go the the automated SAM machine. Or online..", crazy, i thought. Im not gonna spend my time to go there to pay.
He make such a fuss over it. Help to pay and yet must do it his way. Ridiculous
He MUST be informed if you pay on his behalf. Else, be prepared for a scolding.
Some people are just stubborn.
And im just helping by making sure he has a roof to stay. And we are prepared if he do not give us any money back if they were to sell the house one day. What to do.
Im just glad that this episode is closed. No matter how unwilling i want to do it, because it adds to my burden, i just want to make sure i have a roof to stay.
This might not be the best way, cos the emotional stress is still there staying under the same roof, but its the only way i can cover my relunctantness to move, and guarantee his shelter.
Thanks sis.
Nice webbie....
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Other photos......
1. BBQ at Bok Hwee's place
A gathering for the secondary school people. Thanks to Kuang Lee for starting the BBQ pit in an hour's time. Can't remember when was the last time we started a bbq fire that fast....
2. BBQ chalet with Fern and her colleagues
Was relunctant to go at first. Im still not to active on attending fren's event if im not really part of the group....anyway, weizhen decided to go as well, so yup, we went ahead. Bought a small bouquet of flower for Fernie as a bday present.
Felt arkward in the start cos we din really know what to do and her colleagues were at the bbq pit so we were sort of standing there helplessly waiting for food. In the end, Fernie got us involved and there and then, we have a bbq pit to us (Us including fernie's other frens and we and weizhen)
Fernie and her colleagues born in April had a bday gift exchange and not forgetting a bday cake.
Boy, there was a LOT of food. Dun think we finish all though.
All in all, it was a nice night.
3. KTV with RB, William, Ally and Jiaen
We arranged to meet to celebrate RB's birthday. We had dinner at Fisherman's Wharf, a fish and chips place located opposite Central shopping mall at Clarke Quay. The agreement was to give KTV a missed in the initial stage but we succumb to it eventually and hence walk from Clarke Quay to Partyworld at Cha Ren Zhi Jia....
As usual, we had our fun singing and not forgetting the photo taking session in KTV....
ps we took quite funny photos along the way walking to chinatown. Have to wait for ally to send me the photos before i can upload....
A gathering for the secondary school people. Thanks to Kuang Lee for starting the BBQ pit in an hour's time. Can't remember when was the last time we started a bbq fire that fast....
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| BBQ at Bok Hwee's place |
2. BBQ chalet with Fern and her colleagues
Was relunctant to go at first. Im still not to active on attending fren's event if im not really part of the group....anyway, weizhen decided to go as well, so yup, we went ahead. Bought a small bouquet of flower for Fernie as a bday present.
Felt arkward in the start cos we din really know what to do and her colleagues were at the bbq pit so we were sort of standing there helplessly waiting for food. In the end, Fernie got us involved and there and then, we have a bbq pit to us (Us including fernie's other frens and we and weizhen)
Fernie and her colleagues born in April had a bday gift exchange and not forgetting a bday cake.
Boy, there was a LOT of food. Dun think we finish all though.
All in all, it was a nice night.
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| BBQ with Fern and her colleagues |
3. KTV with RB, William, Ally and Jiaen
We arranged to meet to celebrate RB's birthday. We had dinner at Fisherman's Wharf, a fish and chips place located opposite Central shopping mall at Clarke Quay. The agreement was to give KTV a missed in the initial stage but we succumb to it eventually and hence walk from Clarke Quay to Partyworld at Cha Ren Zhi Jia....
As usual, we had our fun singing and not forgetting the photo taking session in KTV....
ps we took quite funny photos along the way walking to chinatown. Have to wait for ally to send me the photos before i can upload....
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| DInner and KTV with TB gang |
End Semester Party at School
This year's theme was on rainbow colors. Hence the dancers are encouraged to dress according to the 7 colors of the rainbow. I've never dressed up to any of the dance themes. A part of me being lazy. Another, is prolly no company to be that crazy....
Anyway, this year, the juniors wanted to dance more to main stream music to attract new crowd, with the hope of expanding by injecting new blood and let them know that lindy can be danced to the music you hear everyday over the radio...
It was very amusing as we danced to the tunes of Jay Chou and all. Quite a fun night.
Anyway, this year, the juniors wanted to dance more to main stream music to attract new crowd, with the hope of expanding by injecting new blood and let them know that lindy can be danced to the music you hear everyday over the radio...
It was very amusing as we danced to the tunes of Jay Chou and all. Quite a fun night.
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| End Semester Party |
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
What a coincidence
Adelyn was showing me her bf's photo when i suddenly realise, I KNOW THIS GUY!
Adelyn have this real shock face......tell me more! Haha, i could correctly say his secondary school name, his ex-gf name (by refering) and his good fren name and all....haha
It really is my friend! He's my first 3 months classmate in CJC.....haha
Luckily, everything that i've said tallies with whatever he has told Adelyn...haha...else....
Adelyn message K to tell her about this coincidence and her reply was soo funny.....
"Such a coincidence. There isn't enough guys to recycle!"
hahaha.....i like this statement....
Moral of the story, never do bad things. You never know what will happen...
If you have done so, keep your fingers cross....
Adelyn have this real shock face......tell me more! Haha, i could correctly say his secondary school name, his ex-gf name (by refering) and his good fren name and all....haha
It really is my friend! He's my first 3 months classmate in CJC.....haha
Luckily, everything that i've said tallies with whatever he has told Adelyn...haha...else....
Adelyn message K to tell her about this coincidence and her reply was soo funny.....
"Such a coincidence. There isn't enough guys to recycle!"
hahaha.....i like this statement....
Moral of the story, never do bad things. You never know what will happen...
If you have done so, keep your fingers cross....
Tuesday, April 15, 2008
a day at HDB
well, went to meet the officer in charge of our loan with mum.
Mum was kind enough to settle the outstanding and the late charges. Then comes what are the valid options.
1. Buy share from dad. Possible but not worth it. That's because they have met the no of times they can take a hdb loan and hence if we were to purchase dad's share, it means getting a loan from the bank which has higher interest rate that flunctuates. Not wise
2. Sell the 4 room now and get a resale outright purchase flat. Based on his experience, there are neighbours in our area who are not able to finance the instalments and bought a 3 room re-sale flat. They were able to downgrade, pay full for the new flat, finish paying the loan and even have leftover of the sale. This is one of the best option but, im really relunctunt to do this as it doesnt seem logical to buy a three room, then afterwhich once i do get married, they will most probably not stay together and then we will all have to move again. And no one can guaratee me that the same cycle will not happen again. This is prolly just a short term solution, i think
3. Use the monthly allowance that we give dad to pay for his share. In this way, we ensure he has a roof to stay...i like this option better.
Seriously speaking, I know what implications each option have, but if the root of the problem, the man's attitude, is not changed, things will keep recurring.
I'll have to talk to him and c how....
Mum was kind enough to settle the outstanding and the late charges. Then comes what are the valid options.
1. Buy share from dad. Possible but not worth it. That's because they have met the no of times they can take a hdb loan and hence if we were to purchase dad's share, it means getting a loan from the bank which has higher interest rate that flunctuates. Not wise
2. Sell the 4 room now and get a resale outright purchase flat. Based on his experience, there are neighbours in our area who are not able to finance the instalments and bought a 3 room re-sale flat. They were able to downgrade, pay full for the new flat, finish paying the loan and even have leftover of the sale. This is one of the best option but, im really relunctunt to do this as it doesnt seem logical to buy a three room, then afterwhich once i do get married, they will most probably not stay together and then we will all have to move again. And no one can guaratee me that the same cycle will not happen again. This is prolly just a short term solution, i think
3. Use the monthly allowance that we give dad to pay for his share. In this way, we ensure he has a roof to stay...i like this option better.
Seriously speaking, I know what implications each option have, but if the root of the problem, the man's attitude, is not changed, things will keep recurring.
I'll have to talk to him and c how....
Friday, April 11, 2008
Happy Birthday to Fern, RB and godma
HAppy birthday to you
Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday to all 3
Happy birthday to you........
Fern on 10Apr...RB and godma on 11Apr
Happy birthday to you
Happy birthday to all 3
Happy birthday to you........
Fern on 10Apr...RB and godma on 11Apr
At work..
as if things arent bad enough, MP called me in that day.
I posted her a question as to why am i given 16days leave when other TLs are getting 18.
She called me into the room, and said "actually, we wanted to give you a surprise. In this April payroll, your pay will be adjusted and your annual leave will be adjusted accordingly to 18 days. and plus 5 years service, additional 2 days. total 20 days. Because previously, your team is small and hence you are under exec level 1....." blarblarblar
Did i hear wrongly? You are just paying me what i ought to have.
First thing. Is it official that TLs have different grade? No. So all should be the same leave entitlement.
Think im a small kid and easy to fool.....oh pls
I choose not to argue and just talk behind.
Don't see a reason to argue. KNS......
I posted her a question as to why am i given 16days leave when other TLs are getting 18.
She called me into the room, and said "actually, we wanted to give you a surprise. In this April payroll, your pay will be adjusted and your annual leave will be adjusted accordingly to 18 days. and plus 5 years service, additional 2 days. total 20 days. Because previously, your team is small and hence you are under exec level 1....." blarblarblar
Did i hear wrongly? You are just paying me what i ought to have.
First thing. Is it official that TLs have different grade? No. So all should be the same leave entitlement.
Think im a small kid and easy to fool.....oh pls
I choose not to argue and just talk behind.
Don't see a reason to argue. KNS......
Never Ending Story
The same cycle is repeating.
He calls, attempts to borrow money, tells you thousand and one reasons to help him, sound pathetic.........
In normal circumstances, you just tell the person "I have no money" and cut off the line if this person is incorrigible. But what happens if this person is your dad?
Do we really have a choice to say no always?
The scenario now. He cannot afford to pay his company for the rental. SGD9K...my goodness.
What have he been doing? He admitted that he is not hardworking enough. I persuaded him to let the company confiscate the cab, find a fixed income job and then pay back.
"You think its soo easy to find a job with my age and qualification?"
Sis's father in law is older, is working. So, what's the problem? Who's the problem?
Can't he just understand that he is not suitable to drive a cab. And why do you want to keep your car when you are 1. in liability the moment you take a cab? 2. Have past records to prove that you are NOT hardworking enough to survive by driving? 3. It doesnt lets you earn enough to eat? 4. It doesnt lets you earn enough to pay the house?
Can't believe it. The housing loan is a bare 200+ per month and he's not able to pay. What the F is he doing!!!
The worst thing that can happen, he pass me a HDB letter, showing me how much he owe HDB. Another total of SGD7K.
Where am i suppose to find such money??? Argh....
I need to make plans. I have the following options
1. Pay cash for him for the house. But mum highlighted that if he sells the house, i don't get to take back anything. Lose lose situation....aborted
2. Include myself as a co-owner and to prevent unfairness to both parents, i will contribute to the full instalment repayment. Need to check if workable
3. Find him a job. Convince him to let go of the car....VERY HARD
In whatever options i make, i can only make plans for the future instalments but not the outstanding and his livelihood when he's jobless. Which means, someone will still need to pay for the house outstanding and the car.
We SHOULD not pay for the car outstanding. He should find a job and pay by instalment. Set Giro. Best
House outstanding. Don't think he'll be able to help to pay this. 2 options. Mum help or i pay. Don't think fair to mum but i need a roof above my head
Sis say i can choose to move out myself. But why should i when the problem is with him? He should move!
Then the conclusion, im softhearted. I can't bear to see him suffer too much as he is old and penniless. Can't possibly forsake him and let him survive himself. I must convince him, make him understand that if he is not gonna do anything or my way, we'll leave him.
Sigh.....first thing to do. Call HDB. I need to see what are the options before i talk to mum.
Shucks......
He calls, attempts to borrow money, tells you thousand and one reasons to help him, sound pathetic.........
In normal circumstances, you just tell the person "I have no money" and cut off the line if this person is incorrigible. But what happens if this person is your dad?
Do we really have a choice to say no always?
The scenario now. He cannot afford to pay his company for the rental. SGD9K...my goodness.
What have he been doing? He admitted that he is not hardworking enough. I persuaded him to let the company confiscate the cab, find a fixed income job and then pay back.
"You think its soo easy to find a job with my age and qualification?"
Sis's father in law is older, is working. So, what's the problem? Who's the problem?
Can't he just understand that he is not suitable to drive a cab. And why do you want to keep your car when you are 1. in liability the moment you take a cab? 2. Have past records to prove that you are NOT hardworking enough to survive by driving? 3. It doesnt lets you earn enough to eat? 4. It doesnt lets you earn enough to pay the house?
Can't believe it. The housing loan is a bare 200+ per month and he's not able to pay. What the F is he doing!!!
The worst thing that can happen, he pass me a HDB letter, showing me how much he owe HDB. Another total of SGD7K.
Where am i suppose to find such money??? Argh....
I need to make plans. I have the following options
1. Pay cash for him for the house. But mum highlighted that if he sells the house, i don't get to take back anything. Lose lose situation....aborted
2. Include myself as a co-owner and to prevent unfairness to both parents, i will contribute to the full instalment repayment. Need to check if workable
3. Find him a job. Convince him to let go of the car....VERY HARD
In whatever options i make, i can only make plans for the future instalments but not the outstanding and his livelihood when he's jobless. Which means, someone will still need to pay for the house outstanding and the car.
We SHOULD not pay for the car outstanding. He should find a job and pay by instalment. Set Giro. Best
House outstanding. Don't think he'll be able to help to pay this. 2 options. Mum help or i pay. Don't think fair to mum but i need a roof above my head
Sis say i can choose to move out myself. But why should i when the problem is with him? He should move!
Then the conclusion, im softhearted. I can't bear to see him suffer too much as he is old and penniless. Can't possibly forsake him and let him survive himself. I must convince him, make him understand that if he is not gonna do anything or my way, we'll leave him.
Sigh.....first thing to do. Call HDB. I need to see what are the options before i talk to mum.
Shucks......
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