Wei Wei is someone that i got to know through Weizhen and Fernie....She's a dancer at Jitterbugs studio as well.....
She happened to learn Lindy when i was in the recuperating stage of my knee and hence, i'm not too close to her....
However, we had some interaction at Sea Jam this year and because of the fact that i was the initial one who booked the chalet to stay for Sea Jam and invited her to join us as well, she really appreciated the gesture and even thank me with a little card. At the moment when i received the card, i had some mixed feeling. I've never expected to be appreciated for this little invitation that we've done.....but after reading her blog, the answers to my questions just start revealing.....
Her blog is an avenue for her to write about her family and in short, her unhappiness.....reading her blog makes me wonder why a gal like her, would be sooo 'depressed'. Maybe the word depressed is too much but it's really depressing to read her blog. And yet when you meet her, she's always full of laughter. And i really meant FULL of laughter as she has this laugh button on her that once initiated, it goes haywire....and hence, the impression she gaves me and her thoughts on her blog shows some hidden unhappiness in her that makes me rather worried for her....
That day was the day where i sort of drag her out, out the goldfish studio to talk to her....i'm not sure why did i suddenly do that but i felt that i want to talk to her.....she told me about the problems at home, vaguely, and at her studio where she took up a scholarship....after speaking to her for about an hour, i've concluded the following
1. One should learn to love herself/himself
Not that she doesnt love herself. I feel that although she has kept herself busy with things so that she will not think of the problems at home, probably in pursue of her own happiness, she hasn't realise that these are not really making her happy....In our pursue of certain things, i believe we MUST be happy. It's sad to pursue things we believed in and hope to achieve and yet not gain happiness from it.
2. To push oneself to achieve and score is a plus point. To push oneself too much and overdo it, is a no no....
She has aimed to be a tap dancer and not just a dancer who tap. that is why she has taken up a dance scholarship, a scholarship that she hopes will inject or widen her dance techniques that will eventually improve her tapping. She has faced loneliness at the studio and felt that she is dragging the class's pace for the fact that all other dancers are much more well versed in choreography of the dance and the techniques required of the steps. Although being the slowest and weakest in the class is a painful experience, but being the 'blacksheep' and not gaining the support from the classmates is worst.
I've experienced that, to certain extent, in my pursue of singing, back then when i was at laoshi's class. However, i'm fortunate enough to have encouraging classmates who will stand by you and guide you along. This is important. Being physically not skilled is a minus point, being mentally not guided is worst.....
It's good to push yourself, but you will need people to guide and 'accompany' you along. Otherwise, it will be a painful and slow taking experience that will not help you to achieve anything but dragged your spirits down.
Keeping one's spirits up and positive is important to survive!!!
3. Being well versed in all aspects is good, but it takes time and good planning
In her pursue to learn different dances to improve her skills as a dancer, she has forgotten something. That it takes time and good planning to be well versed in all dances. She has kept herself soo busy with classes that i feel, she has not been able to juggle all and give each dance time to learn and understand.This will result in being jack of all trades but master of none. And for the fact that she is not that happy, will only slow things down.
We should always planned on the number of classes we can take at a time with ample time and concentration given to each. Otherwise, we will just be very tired at the end of the week and probably not gain much out of each classes. Unless of course if we are in borne talented and fast learners (which sadly to say, not many of such people exist in this world), will we be able to juggle all and still score in each. Else, still advisable to take things one at a time.....
In the end, i received an sms from her two days later, saying thanks for sharing my thoughts with her...she feels that im making sense. Of cos, im delighted for being able to share and help her with the little time spent with her....Sincerely hope that i will see a happier Wei Wei, who smiles together with her heart and mind...
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